We are all such a worried lot. We are always find something to worry about. Worrying has become a chronic habit. Why don't we let our minds relax?
Mind and body are connected and so by worrying too much we indirectly harm the body. As if that was not enough, we launch a direct attack on our health by not eating nourishing food (regularly), by not exercising and by not giving our bodies adequate rest. Our body is not a machine. But in-spite of this knowledge, we use our bodies like one. And let us remember poorly maintained machines, fail prematurely.
Now, we all know this. then what stops us from doing the right things? We have a little extra hard work to do here.
Let us take the cause of our worries.
We take on too many tasks and want each of those to be done well. We want perfect outcomes-each and every time. Minor deviations make us worried and we see ourselves working overtime to correct the course. In other words our tolerance for ambiguity is so less. And that is what makes us feel so vulnerable. And then we get into a denial mode. We hide our vulnerability. We numb the pain. But one cannot selectively numb. So our joy, love, happiness, gratitude-all get numbed. Sometimes, we pretend and fail to realize the power of being authentic. Slowly, we get into a negative cycle. As work never gets over, we end up feeling miserable and unhappy.
We take on too many tasks and want each of those to be done well. We want perfect outcomes-each and every time. Minor deviations make us worried and we see ourselves working overtime to correct the course. In other words our tolerance for ambiguity is so less. And that is what makes us feel so vulnerable. And then we get into a denial mode. We hide our vulnerability. We numb the pain. But one cannot selectively numb. So our joy, love, happiness, gratitude-all get numbed. Sometimes, we pretend and fail to realize the power of being authentic. Slowly, we get into a negative cycle. As work never gets over, we end up feeling miserable and unhappy.
What are the solutions?
1. Remove the cause of worry by taking on one task at a time and staying calm. Take it slow and easy. Not hurriedly. I repeat stay calm. Know that you are doing your best and that there is no more that you can do. So no need to worry yourself to death.
2. Do not daily feed your mind with fresh fear that you yourself create.
3. Feast on laughter in the company of joyful people.
4. Accept these - vulnerability, failures, the fact that things can go wrong. Have the courage to be imperfect. Accept yourself wholeheartedly as you are. What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful. This is fundamental. This will be the birthplace of love and joy.
5. Have a sense of worthiness. Of love and belonging. Of wholeheartedness. Believe that you are worthy of love and belonging.
6. No matter what happens-don't give up. Stay calm and keep trying. Chronic habits will take some time to change.
7. Be concerned with untiring performance of right actions for right result. But be focused on the action and not on the result.
4. Accept these - vulnerability, failures, the fact that things can go wrong. Have the courage to be imperfect. Accept yourself wholeheartedly as you are. What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful. This is fundamental. This will be the birthplace of love and joy.
5. Have a sense of worthiness. Of love and belonging. Of wholeheartedness. Believe that you are worthy of love and belonging.
6. No matter what happens-don't give up. Stay calm and keep trying. Chronic habits will take some time to change.
7. Be concerned with untiring performance of right actions for right result. But be focused on the action and not on the result.
Thank-you for the great tips!
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