Prosecutor, Judge and the Victim

We have played all three parts countless times throughout our lives. 

Let me explain!

Let's say we do not like someone's idea, opinion or belief.

We first adopt the role of a judge by decreeing that their idea is flawed (We believe that ours is the best)

Then we get into the lawyer mode by lining up our arguments to prove them wrong. (we want to win here)

And since usually the other party won't agree, we feel miserable. We experience several negative emotions, such as anger, disgust, frustration. We now blame them for our emotional distress. 

My take - 

1. "Strong Opinions, weakly held" is a great way to be mentally agile. I am willing to change my mind in the light of new information. 

2. People don't change because you are logical. The more forcefully you argue the more the other party digs in the heels. Present the information and encourage them to think for themselves.