When someone you care for cannot see your point of view, it frustrates us. We classify our understanding as 'common sense' and therefore cannot fathom the non-acceptance of something so obvious (to us). That is precisely the point. It's obvious to us and not to the other person because we all have a different world view. We will be wiser if we realize that our aim should not be to align the other person to our world view. We can definitely present our idea and discuss it. But if they cannot see what we are seeing then the vice-versa is also true. We should therefore expand our consciousness.
Imagine a very large pitch dark warehouse with thousands of aisles. Let's say there are 10 people in this warehouse and each one has a flashlight. Each one can therefore see only as far as the light shines around him. Now, you may shout from aisle 139 to your friend in aisle 20 and if you expect him to mould his understanding based on your consciousness, then that will be futile. Instead, what if we can increase the area covered by our flashlight so that our friend's area is covered by our light as well and then we can see what we he sees. Your friend will still not be able to see your view because in this world we can see only as far as our "OWN"flashlight shines. That is our consciousness.
Each one of us is unique. We create our own reality and we have our own journey in which we experience this world uniquely. It's hard to realize what the other person's story is and what he is going through.
Note 1: What if you can flip the switch to light up the warehouse with the 1000 halogen lamps and therefore we now have a 360 degree view of this warehouse!!
Note 2: Avoid giving advise unless asked for. It has never worked.
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